I have a problem. It’s hard for me to relax and be peaceful when there’s work hanging over my head.
It started when I was a child. I would finish all my chores and then reward myself with freshly fried yam & peppery stew or a movie. And so, I programmed myself to see fun as a reward for work done, not something that can be enjoyed independently. It’s why it’s hard to switch off when there’s something on my plate.
To be fair, it’s created an incredible work ethic and a reputation for speed. I complete work quickly in order to get it done so I can proceed to the reward.
This is not a good way to live.
It creates much anxiety as I’m under an unseen compulsion to clear my table both metaphorically and literally. I straighten my work tools and eliminate clutter from my study to unconsciously signify I’ve closed for the day.
Living a good life, enjoyment and fun are not rewards. They are your real life. Work is a tool to accomplish many things. But there are also enjoyable experiences that are meant to enrich your life and break the tedium of activity. Some of them don’t cost a thing. Those experiences give you a chance to catch your breath, rest your mind, evaluate your life and feel joy & gratitude.
Most people have an internal regulatory system. A warning bell that tells them they’re working too much. The voice that reminds them to call friends, devote more attention to family or spend more time in prayer.T It’s a reminder to return to what matters.
If you spend too much time away from the joys of life, you won’t refuel and refresh. Your days will become tasteless. A daily drudge; a disproportionate distribution of what you hate versus what you like. In short, you will eventually resent your work and then proceed to burn out.
For more, please read The Soul of Discretion.
If you spend too much time away from the joys of life, you won't refuel and refresh. Your days will become tasteless. A daily drudge; a disproportionate distribution of what you hate versus what you like. Click To Tweet