Let Go of Alternatives
You can’t remember when you became addicted. It snuck up on you. Thinking about how it happened tires you. You […]
Sex and Culture
I’ve had many discussions about relationships and sex with Nigerians. Here are some of the cultural assumptions I’ve discovered: You […]
How I Write
Here’s how I write. I apply many methods but each is preceded by a thinking process that I call, chewing. […]
Admit Your Unhappiness
I used to be plagued by unhappiness. I lived on the Lagos Mainland while working on the Island. My departure […]
The One That Got Away
This is the story of the one who got away. A few years ago, I was in a relationship with […]
Giving: Life’s Great Privilege
I joined my church 3 years ago and made a financial contribution soon after. Now I can’t remember if it […]
(Don’t) Shake That Booty!
I watch music videos at the salon. Until a few weeks ago, I hadn’t owned a TV in years. Now, […]
What Would you Give up for Happiness?
Happiness is counterintuitive. It is found in the things you give away and not the things you amass. This makes […]
The Collector
My friend curates fashion accessories. He once asked me what I collect too. Bags? Shoes? Cars? For the life of […]
Profound Fear
There’s a profound fear that lives in Nigeria. I felt it immediately I landed from a recent trip. It’s the […]